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Clothes and Ostomies

One of the most common questions I get sent to me is about what clothes to wear when you have an ostomy.  People asking if they can ever wear ‘normal’ clothes again, how to hide your bag, what underwear is best and how to still feel like themselves.

My answer is usually that you can wear anything you like! There are no hard and fast rules, it is about personal preference, some people don’t mind if you can see the bag, others want to mask it.  I think the only thing that affects my clothes choices is comfort.  I want to wear things that I am comfortable in and feel amazing.  Amazing for me feels like wearing something that I love, that also fits well around my stoma and means I can go about my day without paying too much attention to my ostomy bag.

Now I am a permanent ostomate and will have this bag forever, it has meant a reshuffle of my wardrobe and some new clothes.  I started by going through all my current clothes and chucking out EVERYTHING that doesn’t fit well around my stoma, this was pretty depressing and I have to admit, I had a little cry.

It all felt so FINAL to give away my favourite trousers.  But those fave trews have a waistband that sit directly on top of my stoma, I tried wiggling them lower or pulling them over the top but neither worked.  I had to accept that my stoma ain’t moving so what is the point in keeping the trousers?

Then I went shopping! YEY!  Last time I had a stoma, I found that maternity trousers are awesome for life with an ostomy, especially those that have the stretchy panel attached to them and so I hit H&M and bought two pairs of maternity jeans and a pair of maternity leggings.  I also find that a slightly longer than usual top makes me feel tons more comfortable and so searched for tops that made me happy.

So this was my going shopping outfit.  A long stripy skirt, the waistband sits above my stoma and a longer black top with a scarf.  It’s super comfy without being too casual and if you’re concerned about showing the bulge, the scarf hides everything.

Top – George at Asda

Skirt and scarf – Primark

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clothes and ostomy ileostomy colostomy fashion

 

Onto my bought items, this is maternity jeans and a tight fitting top that is just a bit longer than usual.  I don’t mind if the outline of my bag shows and I am happy to wear tight fitting clothes.  I know some people are more self conscious but I find that no one cares! And if anyone notices, I am happy to tell them about my bag.

You can see the panel and wear it sits with regard to my ileostomy bag.  I love that it keeps everything tucked against my body and it feels safe.  You can also see it from the side.

MAMA super skinny jeans – H&M £24.99

Conscious Long Sleeve Jersey top – H&M £7.99

clothes and ostomy ileostomy colostomy fashion

clothes and ostomy ileostomy colostomy fashion

clothes and ostomy ileostomy colostomy fashion

clothes and ostomy ileostomy colostomy fashion

 

I also went in for some maternity black leggings.  Leggings are great for going under anything and these make me feel the bag is kept tucked against my body so when I wear a dress or top over, it’s not flapping about!

MAMA Leggings H&M £7.99

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Outfit three was more maternity jeans, black this time and a loose fitting shirt.  I love this outfit as I just feel like myself in it, I can see myself wearing it around the house or going out with the kids.  It’s so comfortable too, I hate wearing joggers, I feel like Waynetta Slob in them and so a comfy, relaxed outfit that I feel like ‘me’ in is just brill.  Again, it’s easy to shove a scarf over for those times when your bag fills up instantly and you look like you’re smuggling a bag of potatoes…

MAMA jeans H&M – £24.99

Cotton Shirt H&M – £14.99

Scarf Primark – £3

clothes and ostomy ileostomy colostomy fashion

clothes and ostomy ileostomy colostomy fashion

This next outfit made me smile, it is a dress I bought pre surgery and I wondered how it would fit me now.  I teamed it with my new black maternity jeans and pumps and I felt like me again!

Dress M&S (About) £30

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So there we go, my first post ostomy shopping trip.  It may just seem like a couple of pairs of jeans but to me it was the start of getting back to feeling like myself.  I have spent weeks recovering in pyjamas and to now be back in ‘human’ clothes feels amazing.

I really enjoyed sharing my clothes ideas and after receiving a few emails recently from women who feel they can’t wear what they want I think I may share some other fashion posts again.  I am a size 16, 34 year old woman, I know I am no clothes horse but I love fashion and I want other people with an ostomy to know that no matter your condition, your size or your age, you can wear whatever the f**k you want.  Fashion is about fun and expression, the only person it matters to whether your clothes look good is you.

Your style and fashion with an ostomy may have to adapt, you might have to think twice about where that waistband sits, but it is not the end of the world and you can still look and feel like yourself again.  You may want to flaunt your bag, hide it or care neither way, but there is a style of clothes that will fit you and make you feel awesome again. You just need to look for it.

 

Sam xx

11 replies
  1. corinne
    corinne says:

    You are looking great and I am so glad you’ve thrown out those old clothes, they’d make you sad every time you saw them. Hopefully you’ll find a wardrobe of clothes that are you instead. Xx

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  2. Laura
    Laura says:

    Aww you look lovely Sam. No one would know even with the tighter top.
    Can I ask how you are feeling now, mentally? Is it getting easier to cope with every day? Do you still feel sad about everything?

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    • sam
      sam says:

      Honestly, I am just so overwhelmed with life at the minute. I have SO much going on, from the surgery to house moves to work to personal life. It is not a great time for me but I am trying to stay positive xx

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  3. Cat
    Cat says:

    You are AWESOME Sam!! I’ve had my ileostomy nearly ten years and not thought, or be told about, maternity clothes. I’m going into H&M tomorrow. You need to be a model for H&M etc.

    Well done you. I hope,you’re enjoying the pleasure you’re giving us all. I sure would if I were you.

    I lurve reading your posts.

    Love
    Cat xx

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  4. Christina
    Christina says:

    Sam~
    You look lovely, and are such a positive presence that so many people need! Ostomies get such a bad rap. We need more people like you who are confident, fun, and speak their mind. I Love your blog! Lots of great advice, and stories I can relate to. I am 5-1/2 years out from my perm illeostomy, and 3 years out from my intestinal transplant. Due to these and other various abdominal surgeries, I too have a permanent ostomy. Through out these past 5+ years (lots of trial and error) I have learned what to wear and not wear. I have become a fan of scarves too, and have probably 2 dozen or so. You can never have too many! In warm months, instead of leggings, I wear camisoles (slightly tight-fit) as a base layer to keep my bag tucked away and discreet. Another fav is high waist jeans. High waist anything, really. Look forward to future stories, posts, etc.
    ~Christina

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  5. STEPHANIE
    STEPHANIE says:

    High waist trousers, where can I buy them? I have had an ileostomy for 20 years and still can’t source any inexpensive pairs. The ones I have, post colostomy, are showing the signs of age, as am I. Please help

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    • Christina
      Christina says:

      Have you tried shopping online? While expensive, I tried stitch fix for a few months, and got some really great high waisted jeans from them. Kensie jeans. Also express has some great high waisted ones.

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  6. Alison
    Alison says:

    I love H&M but had never thought to look at maternity jeans, I love a skinny leg jean – I had my son 22 years ago and back then the maternity jeans were bulky and I wouldn’t even wear them then! I only had my ileostomy in Feb 2016 so am just working out what works for me. I am quite small – 4’10 and about 8 stone – I ordered some ‘boob tube’ tops (bamboo fabric with a lace edge, 99p from ebay) and am wearing those as a waist wrap especially in bed to hold the pouch close to my body. I also got some great denim ‘jeggings’ from LIDL for about £7 which are really high waisted. I only bought 2 pairs at the time and now wish I had got more as I am living in them!
    Some of my existing long tops and a couple of stretch fabric dresses I have adapted by sewing shirring elastic into the side seams at the waist for about 6 inches to give a ruched effect. I’m really pleased with these so did the same with a bathing suit
    However I can now feel a shopping trip coming on! 🙂

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  7. Jennifer cadman
    Jennifer cadman says:

    Now as well as my bag I’ve a large hernia sticking out.have just booked a holiday after sending for clothes off the internet ,nothing looks right ,im a mature women ,but like to wear what’s in fashion ,slightly heavier round the stomach . Post op any one having the same problem , not helping how I’m feeling about myself .

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