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Johnny Cash – Quotes for Life

You know who was bad ass? Johnny Cash…

He is probably not the first person you think of when you are musing inspirational quotes, but here is why Johnny Cash is like a wise, wise buddha…

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“Flesh and blood needs flesh and blood”

Humans need touch, love and company.  If you find someone special in your life whether it is a partner, friend or general awesome chap, hold them close and cherish them

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This is a good one for us IBD warriors.  We got to be tough, we have to be stronger than the constant shit we deal with every day x

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“Its good to know who hates you and it is good to be hated by the right people”

Dude, someone is always going to hate… Those people, those haters, they aren’t the ones you want around you.

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“I keep a close watch on this heart of mine,
I keep my eyes wide open all the time,
I keep the ends out for the tie that binds,
Because you’re mine, I walk the line.I find it very, very easy to be true,
I find myself alone when each day’s through,
Yes, I’ll admit that I’m a fool for you,
Because you’re mine, I walk the line.As sure as night is dark and day is light,
I keep you on my mind both day and night,
And happiness I’ve known proves that it’s right,
Because you’re mine, I walk the line.

You’ve got a way to keep me on your side,
You give me cause for love that I can’t hide,
For you I know I’d even try to turn the tide,
Because you’re mine, I walk the line.

I keep a close watch on this heart of mine,
I keep my eyes wide open all the time,
I keep the ends out for the tie that binds,
Because you’re mine, I walk the line.”

I couldn’t pick one line from this song as its all so perfect, one of my favourite love songs.  The right person by your side makes you want to be a better person, because you’re mine, I walk the line.
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“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.”
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“Life is rough so you gotta be tough”
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“This morning, with her, drinking coffee” – Johnny Cash about June Carter when asked his description of paradise.
Sigghhhhhhhh <3
So when you are struggling in life, ask yourself one question…
what would johnny cash do
And if all else fails, laugh at this.
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Sam xx

What would you say to your 16 year old self?

A bit of a different post from me today, but after 2013 being a tough one with illness, surgery and learning to live with an ileostomy I have definitely begun to reflect more on my life.  I saw a post on Facebook from my friend and awesome parent blogger Corinne from Motherhood Journeys.  It was a photograph of herself as a youngster and she was thinking of what she would say to her 16 year old self.

It got me thinking as to what would I say to myself if I could go back 16 years and speak to the young woman I was then.  People who know me now don’t believe that I was a shy person, to be honest I still have days of crippling self doubt and a reluctance to speak to people in case they find out Im a fraud, that Im not nearly as grown up as I seem, Im thick and I am a total dork.  But at 16 I was basically scared most of the time.  I covered it with being loud and silly but I felt less than others around me, I idolised TOTALLY the wrong people and ended up boosting my self esteem (or so I thought!) with relationships with men who were, to be honest, fucking idiots!

my 16 year old self

Family life was difficult, I lived between home, with sisters, with an aunty, in a student house for a while and for a brief stint alone in possibly the most terrifying flat in Sheffield… I found myself entering the adult world feeling completely adrift, I had no idea who I was or where I wanted to go.  I clung onto other people’s dreams by following them into jobs and college courses that they seemed so excited about and so I thought it was the right path for me too. I drank alcohol because others around me did, I smoked, went to nightclubs and got myself into situations that were stupid and dangerous.

So what would I tell my 16 year old self?   I’d tell myself that it will all get better, that everyone feels that weight of doubt inside them and that there is no rush to grow up. I’d tell her that her weirdness is great and the sooner she accepts it the happier she will be.  I’d tell her to stay in college and go to university because she’ll regret it for the rest of her life if not. I’d tell her to travel the world before settling down and that kindness is the key to a happy life. I’d tell her to dump the man she is going out with because that dangerous flare of temper becomes a hell of a lot less sexy very, very quickly and  that the man she will meet in a years time may cause a few tears and at times the relationship will be stressful but he will become her best friend, her soulmate and her husband.

my 16 year old self

Id tell her that she can’t help everyone, that sometimes the best thing to do is to walk away from a terrible situation as though she is only trying to make things better, it simply drags her further down.  Id tell her that self esteem can ONLY come from within and NEVER from the men she thinks will care for her.  Id tell her that tequila is not her friend and it will end in a night where she will awake in a fountain.  (Don’t ask!!)

Id tell her she is enough.  That she is good enough.  That she has a kind heart and a good soul and the people who she wants in her life will see that, she doesn’t need to pretend to be anything she is not, she shouldn’t go along with the crowd and she should accept her ridiculous humour, weird personality and geeky self because it is enough.

Id tell her that her two school friends Tania and Hannah will be her lifelong closest friends, to hold them close and to remember that no matter how far apart you are, that they will always be the ones who will hold her up and make everything better.

Id tell her that everything will work out, that life is filled with ups and downs but with a good attitude and strong self belief, any situation can be overcome.  Id tell her that when you fuck up, an honest, heartfelt apology goes a long, long way.  That if you follow two life lessons of ‘Just be nice’ and ‘Try your hardest’ you won’t go far wrong in life.

And Id tell her if all else fails, go with your motto in life of ‘If you can’t sing well, sing LOUD’
So what would you say to your 16 year old self?

Love Sam xx

Radar Key – disabled toilets

The National Key Scheme (NKS) offers disabled people independent access to locked public toilets around the country. Disability Rights UK believes that everyone who experiences ill-health, injury or disability should have the same freedom and independence as other citizens. An important part of that freedom is having the confidence to go out, knowing that public toilets will be available, accessible and will meet your needs.

You can also purchase the 2013 edition of the National Key Scheme (NKS) Guide which includes the location of the 9,000 NKS toilets fitted with the NKS lock.  This guide is the only one of it’s kind and really does open doors to independent living. As well as an app.

This information comes from NKS and you can purchase your own key for over 9000 disabled loos around the UK from them for just £4.00.  This can be a life saver if you suffer from Ulcerative Colitis or Crohns during a flare up or if you have a stoma, it enables you to have access to a toilet to empty your bag and have a sink or basin in the cubicle to be able to clean yourself.

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Having to live with IBD or with a stoma can be difficult, if there is something that makes your life just a little bit easier, surely it’s worth it.  I haven’t had a key in the last ten years as I think I felt I wasn’t ‘disabled enough’ – I felt like perhaps Id be taking something away from others who needed it more.  Silly, I know.

Now I have the stoma and ileostomy I think Im going to get myself one of these.  Id rather have the key and not need it than need it and not have it!
For more information go and take a look at the Radar site.

Love Sam x