“On a good day”
I was talking to a friend who has a young baby and we were discussing how tough breastfeeding can be in the early days. She was saying that she has times of thinking about stopping breastfeeding but had some great wisdom that I have been thinking about recently.
She said “I may stop, but not on a bad day. I’ll only stop on a good day and then I know it’s the right decision”
I think this is a wonderful mantra and one I am taking on board. It is all too easy to make snap decisions when times are tough, but better to stop, get through it and make that decision on a good day. Decisions made on a good day are filled with optimism and hope, they are made with a sense of calm and what is right.
Decisions made in anger, pain, sadness or frustration tend not to be the best for you, if a decision stems from pain, it may lead you to pain. I know this sounds all a bit airy fairy, but think about it, when you are in a bad mood and try and get things done, how often does it go from bad to worse? You stub your toe, you drop your tea, you lose your keys…
I am struggling at the minute, my health isn’t great and life is all a bit stressful with work, cars and family and I am having a hard time coping. I need to make some big decisions but the motto of doing it on a good day is resonating in my ears.
Some decisions are difficult and you may not know the best path to take, but I do think that making those decisions on your better day is a more positive thing than making it on your worst day.
Sometimes you may make the wrong choice but at least if you decided on a great day of happiness, you can feel it was just one of those things rather than if you made it on a bad day, you can end up feeling guilty and full of self blame.
So, along with my life motto of “If you can’t sing well, sing loud!”I am adding “do it on a good day”!
What is your motto?
Sam x
You really give a different slant on things
I have been doing quite a bit of knitting and sewing recently, although I’m a relative newcomer to both things. When I look ahead at the patterns I think I won’t be able to do them, but if I take it step by step and tackle each new instruction when I get to it, I have been able to do all of it (so far, and occasionally with a bit of help from someone who knows more than me!)
It has made me think that even when big, scary, life stuff is approaching, if I deal with the ‘now’ the future will fall into place when it gets here. A bit like “look after the pennies, and the pounds will look after themselves”, but replacing pennies with “todays” and pounds with “tomorrows”, I guess.
Hey Sam, this is such a lovely post and such powerful words. With your permission I am posting a link to the local Sheffield LLL group for support and advice for breastfeeding mums – there are many such groups around the UK and hopefully mums might find a little extra support if they need it x
https://www.facebook.com/groups/355764544484671/?fref=ts
That’s damn good advice sam and I am going to try to take it on. I tend to make decisions to pull out of things a week or a month away because I’m having a bad day today,..or a few bad days. Let you know how that goes.
Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time at present….that is – an extra difficult time. Having chronic
Illnes means everyday is a challenge and the resources are just not there when extra stress is loaded on top of that. Take good care of yourself and this too will pass.
Regards jane
Well, I guess that’s something I would add on top of my list! What a great mantra!