Happy Valentines Day

I know lots of people don’t like Valentines Day, feeling it’s all a bit commercial or crappy if you aren’t in a relationship.

I could take it or leave it, I tell that husband of mine I love him every day and don’t need one particular day. But I also love a bit of joy and I like seeing so many posts full of romance and slush!

It also feels like a good day to big up my Cleasby, we’ve been together for 20 years now and our relationship has just got better and better over that time.

The past 6 years have properly kicked our arse, 7 surgeries and my reliance on him has just got more and more. My body has changed beyond recognition, losing my intestine and butt has been tough on my self esteem and has had a big effect on us.

But it’s also taught us about honesty, openness and talking about everything, especially the hard stuff.

There have been really tough conversations, those laying it all on the table talks, tears, hurt, anger, frustration but in the end, love.

Illness, surgeries, these life changing events can end relationships, it can all get too much and pull people apart. I feel extremely lucky that we have managed to draw together and find a new way to make our relationship work through the toughest of times.

Today we’ve had meetings, work and lots of stuff to do, but we’ve had dinner together at home and hung out watching tv and that’s the kind of valentines we like!

I know I’m so lucky to have this dude in my life for the past twenty years. Here’s to the next 20!

Happy Valentines Day to you all!


Sam xx

2 replies
  1. Carol Griffin
    Carol Griffin says:

    We had a quiet Valentines Day. My big gift to John, my husband, was to cook a rather nice dinner (at least for us). I cooked steak, mashed potatoes, spinach, and gravy. It might not sound like much but it took great effort for me today. I had a 7 hour chemo treatment yesterday and got 2 hours of sleep because the steroid they gave me kicked in at midnight. Late night TV in the US is miserable. I used nice china too. We talked and enjoyed each other. Our health situations (his heart, my cancer) have brought us together and I’m sure glad that I have been married to the guy for 49.5 years. We’re planning a cross country trip for our 50th anniversary (if you can do, I can do it)

    So, here’s to all of our understanding partners and quiet Valentines day.

    And thank you for being you and an inspiration to all of us around the world who have bumps in our journey.

  2. Tracy Smith
    Tracy Smith says:

    That’s exactly how I feel. I don’t need one day to say our love you to my husband. I know/He knows I love him everyday. We got married September last year. He nearly lost me to Crohns disease couple of years ago. He always says he feel in love with the person inside not just on the outside. The reason he says that is I sometimes have bad days with my stoma.


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