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Reiki is a form of complementary medicine developed in 1922 by Mikao Usui. Since originating in Japan, reiki has been adapted into varying cultural traditions across the world. Reiki practitioners use a technique called palm healing or hands-on healing through which a “universal healing” is said to be transferred through the palms of the practitioner to the patient in order to encourage emotional or physical healing.

Pat Hayward from Angelic Healing got in touch with me a few months ago, we’d met a few years ago on a course and stayed in touch through the power of social media. Pat had been reading about my surgeries and the struggles I was having with anxiety and offered to come and see me to give me a reiki session.

I’ll be honest in saying that I wasn’t entirely sold on the idea of reiki but thought if nothing else then it would be a relaxing experience and so I took her up on her offer.

She came to see me at home and we had a little chat about what was going on and how I was feeling. Pat is a very calming and open person and I felt immediately at ease with her, I found I could open up to her in a way I wouldn’t usually be comfortable with.

She brought a massage table and some crystals and played soothing music as I lay on my back and closed my eyes. She explained that she’d be moving around my body and to relax, and that if I felt uncomfortable to let her know.

As I lay back my mind starting wandering to worries and things I needed to do. I often struggle with massages as I can’t switch off but very quickly I began to relax and my mind cleared.

With my eyes closed I began to see swirling colours coming in and out of view, my body let go and I found myself in a really deep state of relaxation. I watched the colours moving around and wondered to myself why I’d never noticed that the lights in my living room did this with my eyes closed!

Around an hour later, Pat touched me on my arm and told me she had finished, she suggested I take my time in getting up and got me some water.

I felt as if I’d woken from a deep peaceful sleep even though I’d been awake the whole time. As I relaxed back I closed my eyes again expecting to see the lights again but they were gone! No matter how much I tried I couldn’t see the beautiful swirls and that freaked me out a little!!

Pat told me to try and relax for the rest of the day and to drink plenty of water. I couldn’t thank her enough, I can’t remember the last time I felt so at ease, so calm and so rested. She suggested I spent some time with my shoes off and grounding myself by being outdoors with my feet on natural ground.

After thanking her and saying goodbye I went up to the allotment, I took off my sandals and stood with the sun on my face. All of a sudden my stomach gurgled and my ostomy bag completely filled up! It felt like my body expelling everything in one go, not painful at all but almost like I was letting go.

As I said, I wasn’t sure about reiki before hand, I can’t explain any of these feelings or the things I saw. But I can say it was one of the most peaceful and relaxing experiences of my life. I would definitely do it again!

If you are feeling stressed out and wound up, I would recommend trying reiki, it may not be for everyone but for me it felt like a really healing and beautiful experience.

You can get in touch with Pat through her Facebook page to find out more or if you’re not around Sheffield then search for a reputable reiki healer near you.

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I wasn’t paid for this review, but Pat gave me the session for free. She did not request a review or expect anything in return but it was such a great experience for me that I wanted to share.

How to love yourself

Im doing more and more writing about self esteem and body image and was asked to talk about ways to feel better about yourself.  This is part of my Love Yourself – You’re So Bad Ass work.

My guilty pleasure TV is Ru Paul’s Drag Race, it’s like America’s Next Top Model but for drag queens and its AMAZING.  Totally trashy but addictive.  Ru Paul has this saying at the end of every episode

ru paul if you can't love yourself

Totally right, we all need to love ourselves a little more.  And so here are my tips on how to love yourself.

STOP BUYING CRAP WOMENS MAGAZINES – any magazine that sells it’s rag by speculating about womens weight can go to hell.  Is she too fat? Too skinny? She’s got cellulite??? BURN HERRRRRRR!!!  No.  Stop buying and reading crap judgements of other women, its bad for the soul.

TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE AWESOME – you might feel stupid at first, but positive affirmations are a great way to start to think about the good things about yourself.  Say it out loud and say it proudly.  Remember that your body is listening to the words you say, so make them nice ones.

ACCEPT YOURSELF – I know this is easier said than done, but being accepting of yourself is the start of all things good.  Last year I realised I had been on a diet for 12 years and it depressed the hell out of me, for 12 years of being on a diet is 12 years of telling myself I wasn’t good enough.  I know I am overweight and I am actually losing weight right now for surgery, but in accepting that my body is beautiful just the way it is, weight loss becomes so much less of a big deal and therefore it becomes a little easier to lose the weight as I just don’t think it is the be all and end all.

Accepting how your amazing body is made will make you feel better.  That fold on your side is a beautiful and delicious imperfection that makes you unique, those wrinkles show your path through life, your scars are like the hieroglyphs of your story.  Learn to accept these things and learn to love them.

READ THIS QUOTE – “You are not fat.You have fat. You also have fingernails, but you aren’t fingernails”

GIVE AND ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS – Make a point of telling people when you think they look good, or you like their clothes, hair, perfume, anything.  And be accepting of compliments, I used to deny compliments all the time… “I love your dress!” “Really? This was from Primark and Im wearing spanx to fit it it!”  Nowadays I make a point of holding those denials back and saying “Thank you, thats really kind!”

GET OUT AND GET MOVING – Exercise really does help mood, getting out walking and breathe in that fresh air.  When I am feeling crap, I know the best thing for me is to grab the dogs lead, put on a big coat and get out walking.  It clears my mind, gives me perspective and gives me time alone.  I don’t always feel like it and sometimes have to force myself to do it, but I always ALWAYS feel better afterwards.

PERFECTION IS THE ENEMY OF GOOD – Perfection is unattainable, insisting on perfection often results in no improvement at all.  Accept that humans are all imperfect, and that is what makes us unique and beautiful.

perfect is the enemy of good

USE THE FOUR QUESTIONS – If you have a bad thought about yourself or your body, use the four questions of Byron Katie.  There is a Judge Your Body worksheet, fill it in and then use the four questions.

“In its most basic form, The Work consists of four questions and turnarounds. For example, your statement might be “[Name] doesn’t listen to me.” Find someone in your life about whom you have had that thought. Then take that statement and put it up against the four questions and turnarounds of The Work.

Step 1 Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)

Step 2 Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)

Step 3 How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?

 Who would you be without the thought?

Turn the thought around. Then find at least three specific, genuine examples of how each turnaround is true for you in this situation.”

It is about re thinking the way we automatically think things through habit and creating new thought processes.

THINK ABOUT THE PEOPLE YOU THINK ARE BEAUTIFUL – and realise that beauty is about so much more that how we look externally.  Beauty is about kindness, love, wonder.  Beauty is different all over the world, the very narrow western ideal of beauty in magazines is not true beauty.

RECOGNISE WHEN YOU NEED HELP AND ASK FOR IT – Sometimes negative feelings are more than feeling a bit down, if bad thoughts are something that affects your life daily then perhaps it is time to ask for help.  Whether that is in speaking to your partner, family or friends or seeing a therapist or taking medication.  Your best port of call is your GP.  There is no shame in asking for help, it does not signify weakness.  Recognising when you need help shows strength and courage.  If you need it, ask for help.

Love Sam xxx